Why?

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” Proust
If things have become redundant and you’re searching for something new, but you’re not finding it, perhaps you are looking in the wrong areas, or with the wrong point of view. Take a situation you’re in now. Maybe it’s not going exactly the way you pictured, or the way you would have liked. You need a new outlook. If something is not making you happy, the hardest thing for a person to do is ask themselves, “why”? Why is this so hard for me? Why is this not working out?
The reason it’s so hard for us to ask such a simply put but difficult question is because this question provokes an answer - an answer that usually requires us to change a few things about ourselves. Doing the extra work to make things a bit different can make everything okay again. Sometimes it’s hard to admit defeat, and admit that you’re wrong. But, the thing is, if you admit that you are the person that’s wrong, but you make the extra moves to create a “right,” you’re already smarter and better-off than 95% of the other people out there. Admitting you’re wrong is not a weakness. It’s not a bad thing and it’s not a tragedy. The ones willing to say someone else was correct are the ones that will be considered more relatable, more humane, and more influential. They’re the strong ones, the intelligent ones.
They’re the people to look up to.
Admitting you may be incorrect does not make you a weak or bad person, it does not mean you have failed in any way, and does not mean that you are inadequate. Many people believe that being wrong means they've failed themselves or others. The most important thing to realize is that nothing you do ever fails, unless you look at is as just that. You have the opportunity to make whatever you want of the situation. You can look at your efforts as mistakes, or you can view them as honest tries that just didn't work out in your favor, and therefore you begin again. The fact of the matter is, it's an honest human thing that all of us go through.
Every one makes mistakes. The wonderful thing about mistakes though, is that almost all of them can be corrected with effort. Not many things in this world are permanent, and almost all actions can be undone in one way or another. Make mistakes, learn the correct way to do things and never repeat the mistakes again. Making mistakes could actually be looked at as a positive way to learn new things about situations, as well as yourself. It's all a part of living and experiencing every thing this world has to offer.
The absolute worst thing about being afraid to fail is that it leads you directly into this "failure" that you're so paranoid to confront. Because of your fear, you keep yourself from trying, and that alone keeps you from opportunities and the ability to expand who you are and you're knowledge of all situations.
Every successful person has made numerous decisions in their lives that could be looked at as one of two things, depending on your personality. They can be either a failure, or a learning experience. The successful ones never quit - they viewed their experiences as a change to learn something new, and they took that knowledge with them to conquer what it was that they set out to succeed in. What makes a well-rounded successful person is the ability to pick yourself up and try again. Don't ever admit defeat, because then you'll never fail.

Sources:
Ryan Allis, http://www.woopidoo.com/articles/allis/mistakes-article.htm

"no."

With each day you create a changing future. Think about it. During every day, you make these decisions. Choices. What you decide to put in your coffee, which muffin you bought at the bakery, how long it took you to get to wherever you were going.. they all make some sort of difference, whether it be the amount of creamer making you gain another two pounds, or deciding to grab the chocolate muffin instead of the bran one. As I brought this to my own attention, it made me think that while in between making those little decision, big ones are placed within my day without my knowledge. Each day we chose a path for ourselves, the new direction in which we take in our journey of life. Now these paths are literally the road to our future, I know - epic cliché- but it’s so true. When they tell you to think about each and every decision before you make it, they’re actually serious. Thinking is your most valuable, admirable trait.. I advise you to use it. Now, about the title. The path I’d like to chose for my future is filled with people who have made it their job to tell me “no.” In fact, there is always going to be that person telling you you’ll never be able to do what you wish, ignore them and any stereotypes involved in your aspirations. The people and stereotypes are completely irrelevant, half of the time the person telling you these things wishes they had the courage to do what you’re doing.
My parents are those people that will always be there for me, telling me in their own special way that I can and will accomplish whatever it is I’d like to. Even if it isn’t spoken, and they’re saying the opposite, the truth is in their eyes. You know what they say, the eyes are the windows to your soul. What I’m trying to say, is that for those thousands that are going to tell you no, there’s always at least one that’s going to tell you to go for it, and fight so incredibly hard to get there. The one that acts as your cheerleader is the one you should be listening to. Always keep that positive outlook on your life, and always do what you want, and what you feel is right in your heart. I don’t care if they say your heart doesn’t make the decisions, they’re wrong. Your heart leads you through and through, each and every day, telling you what you want, and what’s right for you. Listen, because it’ll always be on your side.

change.

I believe sometimes we all get a little too set in our ways, and we may not be open enough to change. With writing, sometimes you need a new approach, or a different way to go about things.. and life is the same.

Approaches. Usually when you make an approach, it’s something new, something significant or small, but either way, you’re making a change. How we make them, and how they’re received. These two factors can change everything. If you don’t go about things in the right way, or you jump to conclusions, the problem you may have been trying to sort out is only going to get bigger. Take your time, wait for what it is you’re trying to express to become clear in your mind before speaking out. Sit back and observe. The key word for all of this, is think. Wait it out, it pays in the end.
Doing something you never knew or thought you could, and doing it successfully, is so gratifying. How do you know what the right thing to do is? You don’t. You have to look inside your own soul and really search out the reasons for your endeavors. Why did you choose this path or make this decision? Only you may know, and if you don’t, but you do it anyway - you always knew it was the right choice in your heart.
Change is an amazing power that you possess. It is something that keeps life fresh and interesting, confusing and wonderful. Change is not something to be feared, but embraced. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing; great changes happen everyday. Don’t be afraid to try something new, adopt a new style or switch up your attitude from time to time.
Keep people guessing, predictability isn’t what we’re aiming for.
Just recently I had to choose my own path. I had absolutely no idea what to expect, or what I was getting into, but you do it anyways, because change is great, and being comfortable with change is what makes successful people.
Luckily, I have an on-going love affair with change.
Sometimes you’re anxious, sometimes you’re worried and wondering, “Is this really the best choice for me”? You play this game, back and forth, leaving yourself confused with what you really want. But not once do you do anything about it.
You know.
You know what you are doing was the beneficial route for yourself, the one you were always meant to take.
The thing is though, knowing you’re right doesn’t always make it any easier.
In fact, many times, doing the best and right thing is incredibly hard.
If it were easy, more people would be doing it.
In the end though, it pays off, and your heart was always the one that said “yes,” even as you may have told it “no.” That’s a good way to lead our lives, though. Do what your entire being thinks it should, and hope it’s what you really wanted. If it’s not, things can be easily mended and changed back,
no matter how difficult it may seem. Chances are, your ending is perfect, and now you’re off to a perfect beginning.

Being able to change and make a difference in your life that you've probably become comfortable in is a sign that you're very sure of yourself, and you know that no matter the outcome of your new endevour, you will still be the same person in the end. Many people are not okay with changes, big or small, and they become worried with the slightest mention of doing something differently than what they're used to. People can't seem to become comfortable with changing things up, and according to research, many times that's due to low self-esteem. People are so afraid of failure, and not liking the outcome, that they won't even take the chance and give change a try. But with hardwork and fevor, you really can work through these worries, and break down that taunting walls of fear so you can just go for it, and not worry because whatever new thing you've just done, may be undone just as easily.

It is possible to love change, you have to find the strength within yourself to be okay with the outcome, and then take that first step with class, grace, confidence and positivity. It's most likely so much easier than you may think it is. Don't be afraid to love change, and embrace a few mistakes here and there, because that's what makes us better human beings.

Sources:

zenhhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/